Friday, August 21, 2015

In the fullness of time

A frequent question I get: When will Nora get a sibling?

A. I'm trying.

Q. It's been over a year, how do you remain hopeful?

A. I'm trying.

Some days are better than others. Baby fever can be overwhelming. But I know our family isn't complete. One way or the other — though I have an overwhelming peace that this is God's plan and that Nora won't be our last biological child. Doubt sometimes creeps in and makes everything cloudy.

I have been trying to blog about this forever. I've always had a commitment to be honest on here and let God use it for His glory (hopefully). Every month though I'd postpone publishing this in hopes that I'd be able to post a pregnancy announcement instead. And that just hasn't been the case.

I know I'm not alone in this and that brings great comfort. I have so many friends who have gone and are going through this very struggle. Life in a fallen world. We must pray for and uplift one another in our trials.

I am making the most of my time with Nora and the extra time I have these days (as she becomes a little more independent) to study God's word and draw nearer to him. I am truly grateful for having one healthy, smart, beautiful little girl.

I can't help but remember and be comforted by the Biblical phrase "in the fullness of time." That's when Jesus entered the world to accomplish his perfect plan. That's when God's divine will for our lives is carried out. In the fullness of time.

Prayers are always appreciated, though!

XO,

The Melvilles

Monday, August 17, 2015

Bathroom Reveal

I was waiting and waiting to show off my new bathroom. I wanted to finish a few things, like painting the door and buying my statement pieces (new towels and hand towels). And since I'm a busy working mom and may never get around to those things, I figured I'd show you what I've got!

Before:

(Please notice the paint peeling off the walls from the lack of ventilation)


(This vanity was the perfect height...if you're Nora)

(Never quite figured out why there was a window in the shower...)

During:

(Only the tub was salvageable! They took the room down to the studs)

From out-dated, deteriorating and tacky to...



(I love the little touches, like the eyebrow window and niche in the wall for our shower stuff)


(We had to splurge on a Pottery Barn light!)

We used Lichty Homes again and were very pleased. The project went a little longer than we'd hoped, but that's life, right? I did a lot of Pinterest research before we got started and I'm really glad we went with quartz on the countertop (Mega Granite), subway tile in the shower and honeycomb tiles on the floor (all tile was Traditions in Tile in Sharpsburg). Oh, and our awesome custom vanity was Strathmore in Atlanta.

Check out the before and afters of our mudroom floor!


and after!



Oh, we also got started on our upstairs bathroom, but we're not going to show that to you yet. I promise it will make for some dramatic before and afters! One day we hope it will serve as our master suite. It's definitely going to be more contemporary than the downstairs bathroom, too! Stay tuned...

Friday, August 14, 2015

Cheap, cheap

Nora's been hanging out with some cool chicks lately!



Yes, our chickens are finally here. And in about 6 months this family will be enjoying fresh eggs!



Sorry the pictures aren't better. I imagined a photo shoot with Nora outside, but I forget these chickees don't quite stand a chance yet in the great outdoors. Don't worry, I'm sure this won't be the last you've seen of our newest little loves.

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

When we meet discouragement

Some days are all sparkles and rainbows and unicorns. Then some days you pour vitamin C-laden water all over your newish MacBook Air (insert my husband's ill-timed joke about my computer not getting a virus). The latter of which I did last week. I let it dry for 6 days and attempted to turn it back on this afternoon. Nothing. I don't know what I'll do yet and I don't really want to talk about it....

However, I will try to continue blogging as I'm able (I'm presently blogging on a borrowed laptop!).

Today, I was supposed to be at the monastery in Conyers spending the day in quiet reflection with the Lord. I was looking forward to praying my way through a long list of things and spending time in the Word. I was going to post some serene picture, like this:



I needed a reset before school starts back NEXT WEEK. But then I ruined the laptop last week, got behind on a magazine article and Nora got sick. Best laid plans, right?

It's hard not to be discouraged sometimes — especially when you don't understand why God wouldn't honor plans that prioritize Him. I've been trying to blog more in ways that glorify him and my trip to a holy place of worship almost certainly would have done the same. Alas, there are some things we get to know and other times that we simply must trust.

My friend, Emilee, and I were recently pondering this very question. Why, when we're walking in obedience to him, do we sometimes still get met with resistance — or slammed shut doors?

Then she read the devotional for July 28 in My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers and we both got goosebumps:

"We are apt to imagine that if Jesus Christ constrains us, and we obey Him, He will lead us to great success. We must never put our dreams of success as God's purpose for us; His purpose may be exactly the opposite. We have an idea that God is leading us to a particular end, a desired goal; He is not. The question of getting to a particular end is a mere incident. What we call the process, God calls the end."

Ok, I'm going to spend the last 5 minutes of my sick child's nap in quiet reflection...

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Guard your Marriages

Marriage is a lifetime commitment between spouses to continually rediscover each other.

Nearly five years into marriage, I am starting to understand that.

As I've talked with more people about marriage, I've realized that marriages fail because couples enter into the institution with some incorrect and dangerous assumptions.

For Jonathan and me, the first year of marriage wasn't the hardest — it was the easiest! Life was bliss! While he and I only dated a short time before we decided to get married (we'd been friends for years), we were a healthy amount afraid to enter into a commitment of that caliber. And why shouldn't we be? You can't know what you're getting into ahead of time. It's a leap of faith. It requires an immeasurable amount of God's grace and His spirit as two sinners navigate the broken road together.

Also, in the same way that Christians are promised persecution, marriage will inevitably be difficult — at least from time to time. I can promise that. It doesn't mean you married the wrong person — it only means you need to adjust your expectations to be happy.


How do you know when to get married then? Answer: When a Christian man and a Christian woman are ready to commit to the covenant of marriage for a lifetime (the book Just Do Something: A Liberating Approach to Finding God's Will helped me to make that decision for myself).


Elisabeth Elliot, the famous missionary and writer, wrote the book Let Me Be A Woman to her newly engaged daughter about the prospect of marriage. After providing her daughter a list of questions to ponder when considering marriage (conversation starters to make a couple consider whether they had common interests and were on the same page on foundational issues), Elliot concluded by adding, "It is a mutual commitment to a common belief that is the only solid base for lasting communion, in marriage or in any other fellowship. Anything less will not stand the test of living."

The nature of a marriage changes necessarily as you settle in over the years. I want to share a few of the valuable lessons I've learned:


• I know it sounds cliche, but love is indeed a verb. Sometimes you are doing acts of love even when the feelings aren't overflowing in your heart. Sometimes you will clean your house unto the Lord so that you won't hold resentment against another person. Pray that those feelings of love that ebb and flow will always be revived again. I personally think that God loves to answer that prayer because it's certainly in line with his will!

• Look for ways to serve each other. Uplift, encourage and pray for each other. Be grateful for the positives about your spouse while always working on yourself. It's all too easy to find another's faults when two imperfect people are living a messy life together. Love must first flow vertically from the Lord before you can pour it out more perfectly into horizontal relationships. You'd be amazed what this will accomplish if you can put it into practice.

• Whether through apathy or rebellion, you will discover that you've put your marriage down from time to time. You must pick it back up. Daily pick it up. The Bible calls these sins of commission and omission. You will do a lot of both in marriage. Repent and ask for forgiveness. Extend forgiveness where forgiveness is due.

• Remember to fight FOR your marriage, not against your spouse. Your spouse is not your enemy no matter how convenient it is to blame the person nearest you. Satan is your enemy and he works to destroy Christian marriages.

• The hard truth of the matter is, even when your spouse isn't in the right and isn't walking with the Lord and isn't meeting your expectations, you have to find a way to honor him/her anyway. That's a picture of the Gospel.

• Pray for more love — to love better — to BE better yourself. Pray for God to guard against your marriage so that it will be a picture of the Gospel, how Christ laid down his life for his bride, the church.

Couples who honor this commitment and allow God to be at the center of their marriage will nourish a beautiful relationship with their best friend. You will actively build a better love than you ever thought possible.


"There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage." ~ Martin Luther

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Flown the Coop!

Guys, I've felt convicted that I guest blogged for a church friend recently when I've been neglecting my own blog!

If you didn't catch that blog, check it out here!

When last I left you, I was happily exploring the world of homesteading. Since then I had setbacks with mono (4 months of it!) and a nasty finger injury. Oh, and I also escaped to Seaside, FL for a week with my wonderful family! I'm happy to report that I'm all-round healing.

But, back to homesteading: I think you can officially say I'm all in with this hippie business. I'm trying to simplify my life. Be content with the basics again. Raise as much of my family's food as possible in order to reduce the amount of processed food we consume. I also want to teach Nora about working hard with her hands.

In addition to homesteading, the Melvilles have been doing a LOT of home remodeling, which I'll be sharing here soon.  My garden is doing well considering I got NOTHING out of it in previous years (wrong location -- come to find out, sunlight is a necessity!). I'm growing okra, tomatoes, squash, peppers, blueberries, jalapeƱos, basil & a little thing I call my mojito plant (aka mint!) ;-)

Oh, yeah, and now our family owns four chickens. "Own" being the key word. They don't live with us. The City of Newnan frowns on that type thing (boo!). But we paid for them, we get to name them (I'm vying for Spurgeon, Keller, Bonheoffer and Piper) and we will soon be enjoying yummy eggs. They will be permanently housed at my friends' homestead. Nora will have frequent visitation rights, too! I can't wait to milk my first goat, too! I'm so grateful for this opportunity for her to learn more about this earth and how generations before made do!

Let me know if you have any good chicken names (I mean, what could possibly be better than what I picked??)!

Friday, February 20, 2015

Organic Produce

I love nature's delicious bounty and I love Groupon. Put them together and what do you get?

Check out my link to Nature's Garden Express here!

Let's be honest. I want to live in the midst of an apple orchard with chickens and goats, but right now I live in the city of Newnan. I can only do so much. At my friend Holly's recommendation, I'm signing up to get organic fruits and veggies delivered to my door. I'll let you know what I think. In the meantime Groupon is running the above deal (a "small" box -- not small to me! -- for $19 at a 50% discount).

Here's a link to the Nature's Garden Express website for more information.

Sign up, folks! Let's eat better this year!

XO,